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Recent Discussions
In 2013 deported Nairobi based business man Anthony Chinedu was quoted saying: "We are doing Kenya a favour by marrying their women. I have never heard of a Kenyan man marrying a Nigerian. Without Nigeria's patronage, Kenyan Airways would fold up." This led to a debate fueling more controversy on why Kenyan women fall for Nigerian men. Some even claimed that Nigerian men pretend when they come to Kenya.
This writer spent a few days in Nigeria which gave her an opportunity to observe how the Naija brodas behave in their own country and truth be told they even spend more on their women. In fact, some of them confessed that it's 'cheaper' to maintain a Kenyan woman compared to Naija girls. We look at some of the reasons why Kenyan women are labeled 'cheap'.
Open for valueless sex
To woo a Nigerian woman is a ceremony. According to Damilola Sonji, who spent four years in Kenya, says that wooing a Kenyan woman is much easier and cheaper than a Nigerian lady. As a man who benefited from one night stands confessed that if he lived in Kenya he would never have a permanent girlfriend till he is 40.
"You see Kenyan women are very different. You can meet in a night club and end up with her in your house without any expectations. Naija girls on the other hand expect you to bring down heavens for them. You might even end up buying a house for her before you can take her to bed," Damilola said.
Desperate for cheap beer
While Kenyan women can easily drown a bottle of Guinness a Nigerian will only drown a bottle of stout in her local. The moment a Nigerian woman walks into a club, there is man already ordering drinks for her.
Diana Bada a Russian born Nigerian musician who was in Kenya for a month agrees that Kenyan women are indeed different.
"In Nigeria it's almost obvious that women don't spend money in a night club. Our men take care of us and that's their responsibility. It does not necessarily mean that you will go home and sleep with him. It's just our culture," said the musician who performed in Olesereni, Kilifi and Mombasa.
Diana says that she was shocked to see her friend panic when one of their Nigerian friends volunteered his car to drop them off.
"We went to eat at a Nigerian restaurant and it turned out that the owners knew my friend. They therefore offered us a car to drop us home and save us taxi money. We were even given clothes by the people who also own a fashion house. My friend almost had a heart attack thinking that the man wanted more. It took a lot of convincing for her to accept that that's how women are treated in Nigeria," Diana told us.
Sponsor mentality
Socialites have single handedly convinced young girls that there is good life in Nigeria. Infact nowadays most Kenyan girls are posing nude online showing off their buttocks hoping that someone will discover them and fly them to the new land of opportunity where they will take more photos in poses that could easily have them confused for a disabled woman.
Nigerian musician General Pipe claims it's not always as rosy as it seems in Nigeria but is shocked at the lengths Kenyan women will go just to bag a Nigerian man.
"I know one Kenyan socialite whose first visit in Nigeria was disastrous. She almost slept in the streets but was rescued by a fellow Kenyan. She spent the rest of her days fondling with any man with a nice shoe. Naija babes can make you pay for their flight to your country and never show up because they will somehow find a way to sell the ticket," said the musician who lived in Kenya in 2012.
Love to chop chop around
Having sex at some point in a woman's life is fad. A common point of discussion for a gossip session. It even gets spicier if a woman has sampled outside Kenya. According to Folorunsho Agbede a Nigerian teacher who was in the country for only a week says she was shocked at the activities that went on in the hotel she was staying.
"It was a conference for Nigerian and Kenyan teachers and we were staying at a high end hotel near Valley road. I noticed that our Kenyan female counterparts were sharing rooms with our Nigerian male colleagues just two days after we met. I know some of these men are married back at home so this really came as a shocker to me. I'm not saying that we are perfect maybe we are just difficult," Folorunsho shared with us.
Confidence issues
Naija girls are very confident. In fact a man insults them for not being submissive they will easily defend themselves. Kenyan girls on the other hand are very reserved. According to Olamide Ojuon, he would date a Kenyan girl but never marry her.
"I just feel that Kenyan girls are not confident. I wish I could show you the messages I get from girls I have broken up with and how they react. They always ask where they went wrong. If a woman is confident she should know that she is beautiful and a man who leaves her is the looser. I want an aggressive woman. I want to chase someone so when I get them I won't want to lose them. Maybe I can just find that back home," Olamide, a Nairobi based gym instructor said.
Willing to be bread winners
While Wanjiku is willing to finance Obiajulu's shoddy activities locally a Ijeoma would never do that because she is already used to the fact that men are providers. "A man should provide for you, your friends and family if possible. That's his responsibility. For a Naija babe to get with a man he must be willing to chop money. Isn't that she same in Kenya? No romance without finance right?" Chike Adobi sought to find out from us as she looked forward to dating a Kenyan man.
Open minded family
Apart from a few cases of influential families, Kenyan girls can easily choose whom they want to be with even if he is a pauper. With the come-we-stay being recognized as formal marriage most people don't even inform their families till they have had a child. However when a Naija girls shows interest in a man her family starts researching his back ground.
Nigerian musician Flavor actually expressed this as one of the reasons he has not married yet.
"Marriage in Nigeria is a very big deal and that's why women and men don't rush into it. When a girl shows interest in a man the family starts snooping just to find out his back ground. That's why Naija girls are very choosy," Flavor told us in a previous interview.
While a section Kenyan men complain that ladies have increasingly grown choosy, they, on the other side, have actually found a sweet spot with Nigerian men and things between them are actually working for the “happily ever after” ending.
Since they discovered the new love pot which, strangely enough, brews faster and with happier promises, the ladies are now distancing themselves from the skirmish of the insensitive common denominator known as Kenyan men.
The constant barrage of a struggling party goer slowly amassing wealth with the aim of having an equally hard working lady supporting his back no longer appeals to the average millennial lady.
Most have both publicly and secretly declared their undying love for the Nigerian man and here are 10 reasons why.
1. Unique Accent
As much as an accent is often considered a God-given physical ability, Nigerians have been blessed with one to melt hearts far and wide.
Kenyan ladies easily fall for the sweetly natured unique accent from the west, which often comes laden with a flashy lifestyle.
That makes it easier for the raspy hoarse Kenya’s counterpart to be monstrously ignored.
2. Super spenders
Just by the virtue that a man from Nigeria flew all the way across the Central Africa to land and stay in the potent land full of Kenyan ladies, means that they must have saved enough to afford such a great leap in life.
More ladies are often hooked to their Nigerian lovers even after a single date night.
Several have even flown across Africa to tie the knot in the West African country and have never looked back since.
3. Are sensitive and caring
In Kenya, men are often considered “don’t cares.” There are no hand in hand trips to the salon and shopping malls and the few that are caring enough to do that have long since been taken.
The Nigerians, on the hand, have shown Kenyan ladies that good men can still be found miles away. Since they hit the ground, they are often spotted anywhere from salons, to carrying their lover’s handbags and Pizza boxes down Moi Avenue.
How they really do that and still smile has always puzzled their Kenyan counterparts.
4. They are often updated with brands Women love.
Kenyan ladies have often cried foul over starting a conversation with a typical Kenyan man. The talk only ever veers from what she likes and believes to what he thinks should matter in both their lives, which is often football, national news and then more football.
Nigerian men, however, are much more attentive and do actually own some of the brands the women adore. They have been spotted doting Versace, Gucci and Valentino products and often namedrop expensive vacation destinations women always dream about.
Nigerians even move a step further and get their ladies these kind of gifts which creates a wider rift between 'slay-queens' and struggling Kenyan men.
5. Sweet Talkers
Ever since Nigerians invaded all aspects of Kenyan lifestyles, from clubs, to movies and TV screens and sold out concerts, nothing can ever beat the tongue of a typical Nigerian living in Kenya.
Ladies have often confessed to being swooped off their feet in a matter of seconds with big promises and an immediate flashy lifestyle to match.
6. Generally good looking (At least the ones who have made it into the country anyway)
Judging by the myriad music songs that are staple in Kenyan clubs and TV screens, most ladies have long been convinced that men exports of the West African country are naturally handsome with chiseled faces and bones.
Most ladies throng Nigerian concerts around the city just to have a taste of what a properly chiseled body looks/feels like.
7. Plenty of time to entertain their women
Most Nigerians in the country are either students or established businessmen looking to expand their empires into East Africa, which makes them the more active.
This means that the businessman has already established their wealth grounding and do not have to work as hard as their Kenyan counterparts who strain in the city for more than 16 hours a day.
Nigerians, therefore, often spend more time with their ladies taking them to all kinds of vacation around the country.
8. Own International Visas
Most ladies with a dream to trot the globe often fall for Nigerian men who can fly them out.
That translates to a wider thinking which often widens the vacation spots ranging anywhere from the Maldives to Victoria Falls and Taj Mahal.
All a Kenyan man thinks for vacation are overcrowded spots around the city and a very once in a while trip to Mombasa or upcountry.
9. Good Dancers
Based on their hit music videos and numerous dancing doning TV screen in this digital age, most ladies have noticed that Nigerian men can really get down and dance which they really love.
Most Kenyans do not have class when it comes to dancing and are often a disappointment especially in clubs where dancing is the greatest activity you can engage in.
10. Bedroom Bully
Well, this is the icing on the cake and you ladies know it.
Even in their mainstream media, Nigerians have often confessed possessing “big cassavas” which makes ladies fall for them at an alarming rate.
Most ladies we talked to praised Nigerians of being considerate in that they always ensure that their ladies are satisfied in matters bedroom unlike their Kenyan counterparts.
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It was revealed by the High Commissioner that between 2018 and 2019, 723 Nigerians have been sent back to Nigeria on the basis of alleged cybercrime and prostitution. Michael Abikoye, the Nigerian High Commissioner to Ghana, has described the deportation of Nigerians by the Ghana Immigration Service as an "improper act".
He stated this at a meeting with the Comptroller-General of the GIS, Kwame Takyi, in Ghana, according to NAN.
The Nigerian ambassador said the deportation could strain the brotherly relationship both countries share.
It was revealed by the High Commissioner that between 2018 and 2019, 723 Nigerians have been sent back to Nigeria on the basis of alleged cybercrime and prostitution.
Abikoye said in January, 81 Nigerians were returned home for alleged cybercrime and illegal stay, while 115 were deported on the allegation of overstay and prostitution.
He said: "Although the GIS had linked prostitution and cybercrime as some of the reasons for the deportation, it is improper to deport Nigerians for alleged illegal stay in Ghana.
“There are several Ghanaians living in Nigeria and the Nigeria Immigration Service has never deported any of them on the grounds of illegal stay, because of the brotherliness between our countries."
Abikoye warned that any maltreatment of Nigerians will not be tolerated by the Nigerian government.
The ambassador gave the CG a copy of the mission’s record which shows the deportation of Nigerians from January 2018 till date.
In his remarks, Takyi said GIS had no choice but to act because of the behaviour of some Nigerians in Ghana.
Takyi claimed that “some Nigerians had become laws in themselves; they block major Ghanaian streets where they drink, fight and stab one another.”
“This unruly behaviour which contravenes the local laws in Ghana has led to directives from higher authorities for the arrests and eventual deportation of those who do not have the requisite immigration papers," he added.
Grieving families of the mosques terrorist attack victims in Christchurch are anxious to be reunited with their loved ones.
Concise News reports that Linwood mosque leader, a Nigerian, Lateef Alabi, escaped death when the attacker struck in one of the mosques on Friday.
“Everybody is angry, everybody is upset of course, and they want to see their dead ones and just want to pay their last respects and let them go to the grave, but the police have to complete their work and go through the normal procedure before they are released,” Alabi recounted the terror.
Alabi said the community leaders had requested the process be done as quickly as possible.
He and other leaders wanted the mosques re-opened with increased security.
“I’m very sad for what has happened, but I believe this country is a peaceful country and I hope something good will happen after that and the security will become tighter.”
The mood at the hospital was tense at times as some family members expressed their frustration and grief over the situation.
“They just want to express the anxiety and the pain they are going through … that’s all. Our people are very good; it’s not that they are angry with the police or the work they are doing. They just want to see … just to know that … ok, my father is gone, my brother is gone … so I just want to get him beneath the ground, beneath the earth.”
No time for the release of the bodies for burial had been agreed, but Alabi said it would “probably” start from Sunday.
Alabi became emotional talking about the grieving families.
“I never thought this would happen in New Zealand, never, never, never, believe me.
“But it’s happened, it’s happened, so it will happen anywhere and …. we just feel bad about those who have passed away … and for their families … I will pray for them.”
The volunteer imam states that he was in the middle of prayers when he saw the gunman outside the mosque.
“He shot one brother coming towards the mosque; he shot him from the head.
“I stopped my prayer, I peeked through the window, and I saw the person with a machine gun, heavily dressed. By the time I looked on the ground and saw dead bodies I thought this is something else, this is a terrorist.”
Alabi told everyone inside to “get down”, but it wasn’t until the gunman shot someone through a side window that everyone dropped to the floor.
He said the gunman ran out of bullets and dropped his gun. A man inside the mosque followed the shooter as he left the mosque. He picked up the machine gun and smashed it into the gunman’s car windscreen. After the gunman ran away, Alabi returned to the mosque.
“I started picking up the bodies to know who was dead and who was alive.”
Alabi said he had never expected to experience a terrorist attack in New Zealand.
“I’m very sad for what has happened, but I believe this country is a peaceful country and I hope something good will happen after that and the security will become tighter.”
It would take some time and lots of reassurance before many members would feel safe to return to the mosques.
“Probably even going to the mosque will be hard for members unless some serious security is provided.”
“I believe New Zealand will do it. The PM has promised it, and she will do it,” he said.
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